Saturday, July 2, 2011

Don’t You Folks Have Jobs?

After travelling around Asia and before law school, I lived in NYC.  For a good part of that year plus, I worked as a waitress at a few restaurants around the city.   I lived a simple worry-free life.  I worked mostly dinner shifts, which meant that I had the best of both worlds: I got off just as Manhattan night-life was heating up and I didn’t have to wake up in the morning after a night of being way too cool for the woman I am today J but could still enjoy New York during the day.  Anyway, I remember thinking to myself when I would walk around the city before my evening shift began: what are all these people doing hanging out during the day?  Don’t these people have jobs?  So I’d try to rationalize the whole thing, saying to myself, well, some of these people have to be waiters/work the evening shift like me, then a good number of people are likely on vacation from these jobs that they may or may not have, there must be a number of students in the mix, perhaps a good number of folks are new to the city and looking for jobs, friends and family visiting friends and family, starving artists….  I was never quite satisfied with the list of options I came up with because there were soooo many people just hanging out…some relaxed, some anxious, a good number of folks crying (break-ups I always assumed).  In any event, I was lucky to have company during the day as I wandered the city and it was fun making up stories about the people I saw.

When I arrived in India, I found myself with the same questions about my new yoga compadres, all the folks that have passed through for one-week yoga retreats, and the many folks that I’ve run into at restaurants and cafes.  What are all of these people doing here?  Don’t they have jobs?  How can they all afford to take off weeks from work to come play in India?  For that matter, shouldn’t I have a job to get back to?  Oh yeah, I quit after a moment of clarity that I wasn’t happy being a lawyer became unwavering assuredness that I wasn’t happy being a lawyer.  So that’s my story and I’ve got all the time in the world to be here.  What about these other people?

Before I left, I assumed that the course would be filled with recent college grads and college students on summer break.  I was wrong.  My course is filled with an amazing, and diverse group of backgrounds and perspectives: A choir/orchestra conductor who took a year off to take a hard look at his life; a recent divorcee who is doing a real “Eat Pray Love” trip, a police officer and mother who worked her butt off to accumulate enough time off to come here; a television producer who decided that some “me time” was well overdue; a woman recently laid off from a international company who plans to travel for at least a year before thinking of another job, a woman who’s been traveling through Asia for seven years since she realized that she was an unhappy marketing exec; a teacher’s assistant who is between jobs; a college professor (he’s been working since he got here) who wants to be able to teach at the yoga studio his family is starting in New Mexico; three masseuses from posh resorts and cruise ships; an established puppeteer who gave up a lucrative career to learn how and when to say “Yes” and “No;” an entrepreneur who’s presently learning that “No.” is a complete sentence.

The great thing is that I could go through each person in the program and identify how they’ve helped me to better understand myself and the human condition, or how they’ve resolved an issue that I’d been grappling with by sharing their own unique stories and perspectives.  It’s so interesting to think of how much it took to get this exact group here, together this summer.  People have told me that it just happened to be a slow time at work, they couldn’t get into the April teacher training course so they came in June instead, they were added at the last minute after a spot opened up….  Indeed, I could have continued to push through with my job (the sensible option some would say) and I wouldn’t be here….  One thing is clear though – our group seems to have been orchestrated for each individual’s personal progress.  I am so grateful to be here. 


  1. I'm so proud of you! It takes courage to step out on faith and pursue your dreams. Something guided me to your blog today, and I'm so thankful. Your message was just the boost of inspiration I needed. I wish you nothing but love, peace, happiness, and serenity. I think you are exactly where you need to be right now. Safe travels... Cozetta :-)

  2. Hi, Neicy poo I am glad u took time off to find your destiny. I really need to take a break and find my destiny, My true calling for this place that I call life I am just doing the same thing everyday get up go to work come home it's the same rountine everyday. So what I plan on doing is save me some money and set out to find me. I plan on doing that real soon. Enjoy and I love you see you when you come back to the states.